There is something that seems to bother me as I get older. When women describe what they want in a man they always add that they want a man with a little thug in them. Do women really know what that means? Webster defines a thug as, a cruel or vicious ruffian, robber, or murderer. Now do you really want your husband or mate to have a little thug in him? Let’s think about this really hard. You really want someone with these characteristics?
It is funny because you wonder why it is hard for you in your relationships or why you seem to attract the men that you really don’t want to be with. Harsh reality, if you are over the age of 25 and you are still looking for men with these characteristics then you deserves what you get.
Set your standards of what you want. Stop looking at right now and look at tomorrow. When you are 60 sitting on your porch you want to be able to talk to your man and have a good time and enjoy his company. You will not be thinking about a man that has ‘thug” in him.
I think that women also need to understand that what you want is a man to be a man and knows how to treat women. I understand that women don’t want a man that is a push over but honestly if he is a real man he is not going to be a pushover and he is going to know his role in the relationship. This is the type of man that you actually are describing. I understand that this quality is what you grow up looking at as exciting or someone that can handle strong independent women. What you really is a describing a man that is going to take care of you and your children. He will stand strong. Know that you are the emotional being and carry your pain and his on his shoulders. A strong man is not selfish ladies.
Know what you want and I do not think that it really is a man with a little “thug” in him because you think they are the ones that know how to handle you. Swagger and thug are two different things, knowing the difference will go a long way. We have to change our mentality. If grown women are saying this then how cans you teach the next generation to do any better?
Remember to Always Keep it GC,