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The Top 25 Scholarships, Grants, and Other Financial Aid Opportunities For Women

Financial aid is a huge problem for millions of students every year who want to attend college. And yet, it is reported that billions of dollars in scholarship funding and grants are given away annually. Below are the top 2013/14 scholarships, grants, and financial aid opportunities for women:

#1 – The AARP Foundation Women’s Scholarship Program provides scholarship funds to low-income women who are over the age of 50, and are seeking new job skills, training, and educational opportunities.
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#2 – The Betty Rendel Scholarship is available to female undergraduates each year who are attending a four-year accredited college or university and majoring in political science, government or economics. It is open to women across the nation.
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#3 – The Women’s Independence Scholarship Program, Inc. helps women who have survived domestic violence to return to school and become self-sufficient. The primary candidates are single mothers with young children who lack the resources to attend college.
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#4 – The Miss America Scholarship Fund offers scholarships to over 12,000 young women who compete in the state and local competitions as well as Miss America first place winner, four runners-up, semi-finalists and non-finalists.
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#5 – The Google Anita Borg Memorial Scholarship is open to female undergraduate seniors or female students enrolled in a graduate program and studying Computer Science or Computer Engineering.
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#6 – The Young Women In Public Affairs Award is a scholarship for young women age 16 to 19 with an interest in public affairs who plan to enroll in college.
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#7 – The Talbots Scholarship Program awards one-time scholarships to women who want to go back to school to earn their undergraduate degree after graduating from high school or receiving their GED at least ten years ago.
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#8 – The Go Red Multicultural Scholarship champions greater inclusion of multicultural women in the nursing and medical industries, address important gaps in treatment, and ensure that all Americans have an opportunity to work with their healthcare providers to make the best choices that lead to good health.
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#9 – The Jeannette Rankin Women’s Scholarship Fund awards scholarships every year to low-income women who are 35 years of age or older.
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#10 – The AWG Minority Scholarship Program encourages young minority women to pursue courses of education and careers in the field of geosciences.
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#11 – The WIFLE Scholarship Program is open to undergraduate, graduate and post-graduate female students interested in a career in law enforcement.
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#12 – Linda Lael Miller Scholarships is for women age 25 or older who want to complete their education because they were unable to previously due to life challenges.
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#13 – Women in Public Finance Achievement and Scholarship Awards are for female high school seniors who are pursuing careers in public finance, government, nonprofits or law.
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#14 – The American Association of Japanese University Women (AAJUW) Scholarship Program is available to Japanese women currently enrolled in an accredited college or university in the state of California.
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#15 – The BlackBerry® Scholars Program is for freshman women studying science, technology, engineering or math in college.
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#16 – SRR Women in Finance Scholarship is for juniors at a four-year college or university majoring in finance, economics or accounting.
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#17 – Glamour’s Top 10 College Women Competition is open to young women who are in their junior year of college who have excellent grades and leadership skills.
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#18 – Executive Women International Scholarship Program offers scholarships to both male and female outstanding high school seniors who plan to pursue a four-year college degree program.
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#19 – Vanguard Women in Information Technology Scholarship offers merit-based scholarships to female students entering their junior or senior year of college.
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#20 – Joe Francis Haircare Scholarship offers financial assistance to female and male students currently applying for or already enrolled in a cosmetology or barber school.
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#21 – National Student Nurses’ Association Scholarships are awarded to students currently enrolled in a state-approved nursing degree program that leads to a LPN or RN licensing.
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#22 – Sara Scholarship is available to female high school seniors who plan to attend college and are active in golf.
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#23 – Womenetics Advancing Aspirations Global Scholarship offers a scholarship contest for both women and men who are currently enrolled in an accredited college or university.
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#24 – Asian Women In Business Scholarship Fund offers scholarships to exceptional US-based Asian female students who are outstanding scholars as well as leaders.
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#25 – Job’s Daughters Supreme Scholarships offer several different scholarships for single female students who are high school seniors, graduates or currently attending technical school or college.
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Mike Brown Lessons Learned

IMG_1587-0.JPGThe people, who know me, know how I feel about the Mike Brown situation; it is more of a class issue than a race issue (if you want to know why, ask, but I am sure you will get it by the end). At the same time, I realize a lot of white people break black people up into two groups “Black people” and “niggers”. “Black people” are safe in the eyes of White people; they’re everyday people: tax payers and the people you can work and live with. “Niggers” are the scum of the earth; they are dirty, careless, angry, and people you want to rid the earth of. A lot of White people tend to base these groups on where you live. I can tell you from personal experiences that I was pulled over more in the first three years of my driving life than I have the last 11 years. I can promise you nothing has changed but my zip code and income. Now, we have these White cops joining the police force to “police” our neighborhoods that have this same Black people and Nigger’s mentality way of thinking. These Black people do not look like or talk like the ones they are used to. They are afraid of what they think are… niggers.

Police officers have to understand Black people from the hood grow up fearing you, hating you, or just not trusting you. So, if the only time you are around is looking to put someone in handcuffs, you have failed. I’m not saying all Black people are innocent but we need to start a change to stop taking people’s lives. Somehow we let the media paint these kids as terrible people. By the time there is a trial, you would think that these kids are convicted felonies.

We are tired of being portrayed as criminals before we are even found guilty. Cops think they are the law, judge, and jury. I do not think all cops are this way, but there are a lot of cops that have the mentality to shoot first and ask questions later. It is time to start a change; I would ask every cop that patrols in the hood, to just pull their car over and walk around, maybe knock on some doors and shake some hands to be known in the community.

They should understand that people are going to be hesitant at first, but it will help and they will start to see you in a different light and warm up to you. If people feel like you are there to help them, then they will make your job easier. Grabbing bad guys should not be the main focus of the police force, but it should be pride in making our neighborhoods safe for everyone.

Remember to Keep It GC,
Adrian “GC Smooth” Taylor

Mississippi Legislature Passes ‘Religious Liberty’ Bill That Legalizes Discrimination Against Gay People

By Zack Ford

The Mississippi legislature has passed legislation that would allow people to use their religion to justify discrimination. It seemed last month that the “religious liberty” bill had sufficiently stalled after the House voted to send it a study committee instead of passing it, with many members noting how it could be used to promote discrimination. However, both the House and Senate have approved a conference report on the bill, advancing it to Gov. Phil Bryant (R) with problematic language.

“Religious liberty” bills like the one vetoed in Arizona differ from other states’ “Religious Freedom Restoration Acts” (RFRAs) because they extend religious protections to businesses. Mississippi’s bill has this same problem, because state law already defines a “person” to include “all public and private corporations.” Thus, if Bryant were to sign Mississippi’s bill into law, it would grant all businesses in the state a license to discriminate based on religious grounds.

Mississippi does not currently have any state or local nondiscrimination protections for the LGBT community, but a business could use this legislation to justify discrimination against anybody not protected by federal law. Public accommodations that are supposed to provide equal access to all citizens could attempt to refuse service to divorcees, people who’ve had children outside of wedlock, or anyone else who might give rise to a religious objection. And if any town or city in Mississippi voted to extend protections based on sexual orientation or gender identity, businesses could claim that those protections violate their religious beliefs and insist on discriminating against LGBT people.

Though proponents of such “religious liberty” bills claim that they do not promote discrimination, the examples they cite to explain why such legislation is necessary entail photographers and bakers refusing service to same-sex couples. The Family Research Council’s Tony Perkins praised Mississippi for advancing this bill, specifically highlighting how it would protect “a wedding vendor, whose orthodox Christian faith will not allow her to affirm same-sex ‘marriage.’”

Bryant has not yet indicated whether he intends to sign the bill.

Kids React to Interracial Cheerios Commercial

by Becca Mitchell

The Fine Bros. are one of YouTube’s popular content creators. They run a series called ‘Kids React’ showing children reacting to various viral videos.

This week’s choice? The now-viral interracial family Cheerios commercial.

While the videos chosen for the kids to view are typically laugh-inducing, this week’s material was a little different and prompted a disclaimer, a first for the series.

“This episode of Kids React will discuss the sensitive subject of racism and its impact on individuals, families and the world at large,” the disclaimer says.

“The opinions of children about these issues can give incredibly valuable insight into where our society really is and where we are headed as people.”

As you’ll see in the video, getting a reaction out of the kids proved difficult this time around.

Not because they were concerned about speaking openly about such a sensitive and incendiary topic – but because they simply had no idea why Cheerios commercial would upset anyone.

Abraham Lincoln


He led his nation through the most difficult times it had known, restoring a shattered Union and ending slavery in America. Lincoln had struggled to heal the wounds of war, yet he became one of its last victims, and the war left the country no less divided.

Abraham Lincoln grew up on the American frontier. Born in a log cabin in the wilderness of Kentucky on February 12, 1809, Lincoln moved to Indiana with his family when he was seven. The 14 years spent in Indiana were hard ones. The family struggled for survival, living off the meager crops they could raise and the animals they could kill. When Lincoln was nine, his beloved mother, Nancy Lincoln, died. A year later, his father married another woman, Sarah Bush Johnston Lincoln, who raised the Lincoln children with love and affection.

The Lincolns moved again, this time to Illinois, when Abraham was 21. Shortly after, Abraham settled in New Salem, Illinois, where he worked as a storekeeper, postmaster, and surveyor. His warm sense of humor and knack for storytelling won him friends in New Salem — and helped pave his way to the world of politics. Lincoln lost his first election — for a seat in the Illinois State Legislature. But in 1834, he was elected to the legislature for the first of four terms.

In 1836 Lincoln passed the Illinois bar and began to practice law, trying cases both in the capital of Springfield and all over the state, where he traveled by horseback and in a horse-drawn carriage. In courtroom after courtroom, Lincoln became known not only for his legal skills, but also for his humor, honesty and fairness. As his reputation grew, he took on bigger clients, including banks, insurance companies, and the Illinois Central Railroad.

On November 4, 1842, Lincoln married Mary Todd, the ambitious, bright daughter of a prosperous Lexington, Kentucky, businessman. The Lincolns moved into a one-story house in Springfield; they soon added a second story, a sign of their increasing prosperity and their growing family. Mary gave birth to four children, but only one would live to adulthood. For much of her adult life, Mrs. Lincoln struggled with depression and mental instability. The death of three children and her husband’s preoccupation with political matters during the Civil War would only make matters worse.

Abraham Lincoln won election to the U.S. Congress in 1846. As a Congressman, he criticized the United States’ participation in the Mexican War. Still, he worked to help Zachary Taylor, a hero of that war, win the presidency in 1848. But Lincoln had promised to serve only one term, and he did not run for re-election.

Lincoln got another chance shortly after joining the newly formed Republican Party in 1856. Two years later, in a battle that made national headlines, Lincoln fought Democrat Stephen Douglas for a seat in the United States Senate. In a series of hotly contested debates, the men argued over the issue that was dividing the nation — slavery.

Douglas opposed abolition. He also believed that people in new U.S. territories should have the right to legalize slavery. Lincoln did not support abolition, either. In fact, he didn’t think blacks would ever be equal to whites, though he would eventually believe in their basic humanity, their equal treatment and equality before the law. Debating Douglas, he vigorously opposed the extension of slavery into the territories.

When the votes were counted, Lincoln had lost the election. But his skill in the debates against Douglas won him national recognition. Two years later, in 1860, Lincoln was nominated as the Republican presidential candidate. Thanks to a deeply divided opposition, Lincoln won. But he faced a nation unable to settle the slavery question, and willing to fight over it.

Lincoln took office on March 4, 1861, and by then the country was already collapsing. South Carolina and six other slave states had seceded from the Union. On April 12, Confederate guns fired on Union troops at Fort Sumter, South Carolina. The Civil War had begun.

At the start of the war, the Union enjoyed an advantage over the South in both men and materials. But Lincoln faced a number of different challenges. Not the least of these was opposition in the North to what many felt was a war to end slavery.

During his time in the White House, Lincoln’s ideas about slavery — and about blacks — evolved. His meetings with prominent African American leaders such as Frederick Douglass helped convince Lincoln that blacks could be equal. On January 1, 1863, Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation, which declared that all slaves in Confederate territory were free. Shortly thereafter, Lincoln allowed African Americans to fight in the Union Army.

Lincoln also struggled to find a commander who would attack the Confederates aggressively. In Ulysses S. Grant, the president found his man. Lincoln named Grant commander of all federal armies in March 1864. With Lincoln’s support, Grant pursued a policy of total war — attacking not only Confederate soldiers but also the Southern economy. Destroying Southern cities, farms, and factories, Lincoln and Grant understood, would destroy Southerners’ will to fight.

By the fall of 1864, with Grant winning battles and the tide of war turning, Lincoln won re-election. In his campaign, he promised to pursue a policy of bringing the Southern states back into the Union and ending slavery forever. But to pursue these policies effectively, Lincoln needed Grant to win the war. Grant gave his commander in chief the victory he needed.

In April 1865, little more than a year after Lincoln named Grant commander of the federal armies, the Confederates surrendered. Four years of disastrous war had deeply divided the nation. But Lincoln initiated the effort to bring the South back into the fold. Unlike many members of his party, Lincoln believed it would be wrong to harshly punish the South. He planned to pursue a Reconstruction policy in which the South was given generous treatment. But he also listened to the Radical Republicans who insisted on punishing the Confederacy.

Before Lincoln could guide Reconstruction, an assassin cut his life short. On April 14, 1865, John Wilkes Booth, a supporter of the Confederacy and of slavery, shot Lincoln as the president and his wife watched a performance at Ford’s Theatre in Washington, D.C. The president died the next morning, and Vice President Andrew Johnson entered the nation’s highest office.

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Black Fact


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Today’s “Black Fact” is not about a person, but rather a neighborhood – “Barry Farm” here in DC. The Barry Farm community we know today was originally land owned by White farmers, David and Julia Barry, and it extended from the Anacostia River to what is now known as Garfield Heights. In 1867, after the Civil War, the Freedmen’s Bureau bought 375 acres of farmland from the Barrys. The land was then sold for $125 to $300 per acre to newly freed slaves and quickly became DC’s first African-American home-ownership community. A portion of the profits from this were then used to build Howard University, which started out as an educational institution for the residents of Barry Farm, who built their homes and the surrounding neighborhood from scratch. WOW!! In 1954, the Redevelopment Land Agency acquired much of the land in the area and built public housing for displaced residents coming from the urban renewal in Southwest and other parts of the city. These “projects,” which remain today, have been neglected for years and are facing demolition now. It’s been said that the city is using this neglect to its advantage. By failing to carry out routine maintenance, the government is “purposely making these units uninhabitable” and using failed inspections as a pretext for kicking people out….i.e. GENTRIFICATION. Today’s “Black Fact.”

If This Doesn’t Give You Chills!

By Nate Scott January 13, 2014 9:36 pm ET @aNateScott

The above commercial is from Duracell and stars Seahawks fullback Derrick Coleman, who is the first deaf offensive player to ever play in the NFL.

After not being drafted in 2012 despite a stellar career at UCLA, Coleman made the Seahawks this season. In his first game with the team, he had 3 catches for 30 yards, and he also caught a touchdown pass against the Saints in the Monday Night Football game on December 2nd.

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Chick-fil-A gives Free Food to Motorists Stranded in Southern Snowstorm

chickBy Todd Starnes
Todd’s American Dispatch
Published January 29, 2014

A snowstorm in the South is about as rare as a glass of unsweetened tea at a church supper. Folks around Birmingham, Ala. weren’t all that worried though. The storm was only supposed to dust the city – not even enough powder for a Southern snowman.

So when the first snowflakes began to fall, no one paid all that much attention. But then, the flakes kept falling. Before too long folks in places like Hoover and Inverness realized it was much more than a dusting. By that point, it was too late for anyone to do anything.

Icy interstates and highways soon became clogged with cars and trucks. Thousands of motorists soon found themselves stranded with nowhere to go – including many stuck on Highway 280.

Chick-fil-A had a captive crowd of hungry customers. So why did they give away their food?

But a good number of those stranded motorists were able to find shelter in the storm thanks to the kindness and generosity of Chick-fil-A restaurant employees and the restaurant’s owner, Mark Meadows.

Once the snow started accumulating, Meadows closed the restaurant and sent his staff home. But a few hours later, many of them returned – unable to get to their homes.

“Our store is about a mile and a half from the interstate and it took me two hours to get there,” manager Audrey Pitt told me. “It was a parking lot as far as I could see.”

So Audrey left her car on the side of the interstate and joined a flock of bundled up drivers trudging through the snow.

“At one point there were more people walking than driving,” she said.

Some of the drivers had been stuck in their cars for nearly seven hours without any food or water. So the staff of the Chick-fil-A decided to lend a helping hand.

“We cooked several hundred sandwiches and stood out on both sides of 280 and handed out the sandwiches to anyone we could get to – as long as we had food to give out.”

The staffers braved the falling snow and ice, slipping and sliding, as they offered hot juicy chicken breasts tucked between two buttered buns. And Chick-fil-A refused to take a single penny for their sandwiches.

The meal was a gift – no strings attached.

For the frozen drivers, it was manna from heaven.

“They were very excited and extremely thankful,” she said. “People were thankful to get something to put in their stomachs.”

Audrey said they were especially surprised that the sandwiches were free. Why not make some extra money during the storm? It’s not like anyone could go to another restaurant. Chick-fil-A had a captive crowd of hungry customers. So why did they give away their food?

“This company is based on taking care of people and loving people before you’re worried about money or profit,” Audrey told me. “We were just trying to follow the model that we’ve all worked under for so long and the model that we’ve come to love. There was really nothing else we could have done but try to help people any way we could.”

Lauren Dango was one of those stranded motorists. She’s known Meadows for years and she was stunned when she saw him walking from car to car with Chick-fil-A sandwiches.

“I looked up and I’m like, what is he doing,” Dango told me. “He had a catering order and it got canceled, so he pulled over and started giving away food.”

And if that wasn’t enough, Meadows helped a driver maneuver along the icy road by pushing a car up an incline.

Dango was so touched by Meadows’ kindness, she sent a letter to Chick-fil-A’s corporate headquarters.
“Kudos to Mark Meadows for not only preaching the “second mile” concept, but actually living by it,” she wrote.

It’s no secret that Chick-fil-A was founded by a Christian family. And it’s no secret that they run their business on biblical values. What happened in Birmingham is an example of how those biblical values are played out.

“We just wanted to be able to help,” Audrey said. “Yesterday was such a hopeless situation. We wanted to do something to make people feel a little bit better. We were here. We had food and there were people outside who needed food. So it just made sense to do something for them.”

But Chick-fil-A’s generosity didn’t stop there.

“We opened up our dining room to anyone who wanted to sleep on a bench or a booth,” Audrey told me.
And this morning, the weary staff members fired up their ovens and began preparing chicken biscuits. The only thing that is closed – is Chick-fil-A’s cash register.

“We’re not open for business,” she said. ‘We’re just feeding people who are hungry.”

I’d say the Chick-fil-A team blessed a lot of people in Birmingham – but that’s not how Audrey sees it.
“It’s a blessing to us to be able to help people,” she said. “It really is.”

“For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat,” Jesus said in the Gospel of Matthew. “I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in.”

It was a Sunday school lesson illustrated on a snowy winter day along Highway 280 in Alabama with a chicken sandwich and a side of waffle fries.

Todd Starnes is host of Fox News & Commentary, heard on hundreds of radio stations. Sign up for his American Dispatch newsletter, be sure to join his Facebook page, and follow him on Twitter. His latest book is “God Less America”.

Light Skin VS Dark Skin

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I know that we, Black people, joke around about the differences between being light skinned and dark skinned, but I hope in everyone’s heart it is truly just a joke.. Hey, I have made jokes about it before myself, but in my heart it does not matter if you are light skinned or dark skinned, at the end of the day we are all Black. We have to look in our community and start to take responsibility for our own actions. It has been over 300 years since Willie Lynch gave his speech on the bank of the James River and he still proves that if you can divide us, you will conquer us. I want to share, with you, a little bit of his speech.

“I HAVE A FULL PROOF METHOD FOR CONTROLLING YOUR BLACK SLAVES. I guarantee every one of you that, if installed correctly, IT WILL CONTROL THE SLAVES FOR AT LEAST 300 HUNDREDS YEARS. My method is simple. Any member of your family or your overseer can use it. I HAVE OUTLINED A NUMBER OF DIFFERENCES AMONG THE SLAVES; AND I TAKE THESE DIFFERENCES AND MAKE THEM BIGGER. I USE FEAR, DISTRUST AND ENVY FOR CONTROL PURPOSES. These methods have worked on my modest plantation in the West Indies and it will work throughout the South. Take this simple little list of differences and think about them. On top of my list is “AGE,” but it’s there only because it starts with an “a.” The second is “COLOR” or shade. There is INTELLIGENCE, SIZE, SEX, SIZES OF PLANTATIONS, STATUS on plantations, ATTITUDE of owners, whether the slaves live in the valley, on a hill, East, West, North, South, have fine hair, course hair, or is tall or short. Now that you have a list of differences, I shall give you an outline of action, but before that, I shall assure you that DISTRUST IS STRONGER THAN TRUST AND ENVY STRONGER THAN ADULATION, RESPECT OR ADMIRATION. The Black slaves after receiving this indoctrination shall carry on and will become self-refueling and self-generating for HUNDREDS of years, maybe THOUSANDS. Don’t forget, you must pitch the OLD black male vs. the YOUNG black male, and the YOUNG black male against the OLD black male. You must use the DARK skin slaves vs. the LIGHT skin slaves, and the LIGHT skin slaves vs. the DARK skin slaves. You must use the FEMALE vs. the MALE, and the MALE vs. the FEMALE. You must also have white servants and overseers [who] distrust all Blacks. But it is NECESSARY THAT YOUR SLAVES TRUST AND DEPEND ON US. THEY MUST LOVE, RESPECT AND TRUST ONLY U. Gentlemen, these kits are your keys to control. Use them. Have your wives and children use them, never miss an opportunity.

This is so powerful and I think this sums it all up. I could give you a bunch of statistics, but for what? We know how low the marriage rate is in the black community; Black women have lost all faith in Black men; Black men are frowned upon for speaking a certain way, I could go on and on. We can only use slavery as an excuse for so long. I guess we need to adopt the values of our predecessors from the 50’s and 60’s, meaning the only way our community will begin to thrive again is if we feel like we are fighting for something. It is sad that this is the progress we have made over the years; killing each other like animals to claim a block that we do not even own. When you know better, you do better. Let’s do better!

Remember to Keep It GC,

Adrian “GC Smooth” Taylor

1 in 10 Adolescents Confess to Sexual Violence

Laura Berman, PhD
An alarming new study has found high incidents of sexual assault among young people.

When it comes to rape and acts of sexual violence, we tend to picture armed rapists hiding in the shadows. We assume that people who commit sexual assault are often on the fringes of society, the type of perpetrators who wait in darkened parking lots or who break into homes in the middle of the night.

Of course, the reality is that rape often doesn’t look like what we see in the movies. And neither do rapists. Rapists aren’t the stereotypical bad guy lurking on street corners. They are people we know and trust. Although it’s frightening to think about, it’s important to realize that rape can come in many forms—it can be forced sexual contact after an otherwise pleasant date, it can be forced intercourse between a husband and a wife, it can be a night of drinking followed by someone taking advantage of your vulnerable state.

And, now a new study published by JAMA Pediatrics has found that rapists tend to begin their violent behavior as early as their teenage years. Researchers from Center for Innovative Public Health Research and the University of New Hampshire found that 1 in 10 youths admit to committing sexual violence. This included everything from rape to attempted rape to kissing, touching, or otherwise committing sexual acts when they knew the other person did not want to do so. Most of this behavior began as early as 15 or 16 years old.

The results of this study are quite disturbing and frightening. What can account for this high level of sexual violence in our society and how can we better protect our children?

While the study found a small association between watching violent X-rated media and crimes of sexual violence, the truth is that that our entire society plays a role in our young people’s sexual behavior. We live in a rape culture, in a world which makes rape and sexual violence the victim’s problem rather than the criminal’s problem. We degrade and dehumanize women and girls with words like “slut” and “whore” and we simultaneously make it okay for certain women to be abused sexually. After all, they were asking for it. We ask questions like: Well, why was she out so late? Why did she have so much to drink? Why was she wearing such a short skirt? If she didn’t want to go all the way, why did she get in the car with him?

In an attempt to stop rape, we try to teach people (usually girls and women) how not become victims, such as by encouraging them not to walk alone and not to dress or act a certain way. However, in doing so, we are tackling the problem from the completely wrong end. We don’t need to be teaching rape victims how not to be raped. We need to be teaching young people how not to rape—how to look for enthusiastic consent, how to listen to the word “no,” how not to coerce, pressure, or otherwise manipulate someone into sex against their will. We need to be instilling healthy sexual behavior and encouraging young people to learn how to communicate about safety, consent, and mutual respect in the bedroom. We also need to end misogynist language and ideology that serves to shame women for their bodies and their sexuality.

In order to end sexual violence, we need to end the systems that allow for sexual violence to occur in the first place. That means ending the silence and the fear that many rape victims feel, and that means holding rapists 100% accountable for their actions. Young people need to learn that a drunk or high person can’t give consent, and that coercing a partner and saying things “Come on, if you loved me, you would let me” and “No one will know,” isn’t just manipulation. It’s rape. No means no. And, for that matter, consent isn’t just the absence of a no. Consent is an enthusiastic yes, and learning how to look for that consent needs to be one of the first lessons we teach young people when it comes to sexual education.