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Are You Ready for Your Mate?

are-you-readyIt is funny how we pray to God and ask him to send us the good mate that we want and when He sends them to us we do not know how to handle it. It’s crazy that we pray about it for months and years and when God answers our prayers we freeze up! We tend to talk ourselves out of our blessings. We say, “Someone cannot be this genuine and no one can be this good to me.” We become “not ready” for it.

Sometimes, we have to put our fears to the side and jump out on faith. If you are dating someone and you are used to being in bad relationships, it is going to be hard to trust the person that is doing everything right. It is something different. We are afraid of what we do not know. If you have had failed relationships over and over, it does not mean this person is going to steal your heart and run too.

From this day forward, if you are dating right now, I want you to put your past behind you and give the next person a clean slate. If he or she is a good person, let them be that to you. Do not ask silly questions like, “Why are you single?” Don’t tell them, “You are dating a bunch of people because you are too good.” It’s possible they are single because they were specially made for you. I know that it is hard for you to just let go and trust that someone will have your best interest but just take it slow and date each other. There is no reason to rush into something. Build that bond with each other. Do not be afraid, because you could possibly push a good thing away and not know it.

Remember to Keep It GC,

Counselor Adrian

Day 8 Advice to Men on Relationships

Cook for her! I don’t know what it is, but there is just something about a man who can cook and clean that gets my fire going. Granted, I don’t want a man to clean my house and do all my chores, but I guarantee you, at least for this woman, a man who is not afraid to or too lazy to pitch in and help around the house will really increase my intimacy meter.

However, what I’m talking about here is actually taking the time to cook her a homemade meal. It’s okay if you don’t know how to cook. You can buy a lot of pre-cooked or pre-packaged meals or foods from the supermarket to help you along, and you can use the internet for recipe and easy meal ideas. It doesn’t have to be a gourmet meal, it just has to be something YOU made for HER.

Then, when the meal is complete, don’t let her lift a finger to help with the clean up! Make it her night, where she doesn’t have to worry about a single thing – no making dinner, no clearing the table, no cleaning the stove, no washing dishes. You see, the meal will not mean as much if you leave her with all the clean up after.

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Day 6 Relationship Advice to Men

Compliment her. Now, guys, it’s important to note here that a woman knows when you are BSing her, so don’t compliment her on something you and she both know is a bunch of hooey, but surely there is something about her you can find in any situation that you can compliment her on.

If you are going out for the night and you know she took special care to dress and prepare for the evening, be sure to tell her she looks nice. I know a lot of guys don’t notice the little things like a new hair cut or a new outfit, but if you think she looks good, tell her so, and mean it.

Tell her she’s beautiful as often as you can think to do it. She may tease you or blush and disagree with you, but I promise you, she will remember every time you tell her how beautiful she is, and she must be, or you would not be with her, now would you? Beauty comes in so many forms, and your woman should feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world – at least to you.

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Day 4 Relationship Advice to Men

Touch your woman! I’m not talking in a sexual or suggestive way either. One of the things that just does it for me is when my man seeks me out before he does anything else and kisses, touches, pats, strokes — something. It doesn’t take much, but when you greet her, it doesn’t matter if you have been gone for a few minutes or a few days, touch her, kiss her and hug her. Kiss her goodbye, even if you are just running to the store for a few minutes.

When she’s standing at the sink washing dishes or at the stove cooking, come up behind her and put your arms around her. Kiss her neck, stroke or brush her hair – but touch her.

However, if you take that touching and turn it into something sexually suggestive, it doesn’t count in the romance and intimacy department. The point here is not to come up behind her and hug her than hump her, but to just touch her and let her know you enjoy the physical presence of her company. The power of touch is amazing – try it, and you’ll see.

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Day 3 Relationship Advice to Men

Give her a gift for no reason at all and make it something personal or homemade. My man recently made me a couple of CDs for the car that he had burned songs that reminded him of me or us together, and then he made a CD jewel case inset with a short description of why he chose each song. I simply adore listening to these two CDs, and they have quickly become my favorite driving music.
You can write a poem (it won’t matter if it stinks, she’ll love it anyway), write her a song, write her a letter – I promise, she’ll read it for years to come and give her these things for no reason whatsoever – just because!

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