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Good Man


What is a good man to you? A good man is God fearing. He is a man that stands up for what is right no matter if he has to stand up alone. A good man is kind and has a nice spirit. A good man treats all women with respect. A good man is someone that takes care of his family and leads from the front and not the back. Good man is unselfish and gives to the needy and the poor.

Do you know a good man? I am pretty sure that you know plenty of them. They are all around you. They are the guys you past and the grocery store, or maybe the man that you see volunteering with youth. Words are powerful; if you say there are no good men then you will never see the good in any man. As a good man I want to help bring back the faith that we still exist. Not only do I want to show we exist I want to show that we are taking back our communities and the hearts of our women and children.

I want to bring back love, trust, and honesty. Nothing happens over night. I hope that everyone continues to follow me on this journey. Stop the negative thinking and think positive. Don’t give up or lose faith. We out here and we are growing by the numbers. I believe there is a God and if you pray for a good man he will come. Just be mindful to receive him.

I think I just gave you the definition of a Gentleman which is why I came up with the site name Gentleman’s Counsel. We want to change the thinking of the world. But if we can change the thinking in a few people we will settle for that to!

Remember to Keep It GC,

Counselor Adrian

Roles in A Relationship From a Women’s Perspective Audio

ManThinkingIt is finally here! I am happy to share with you one of our First Round Table Discussions. Check out the link below. Feel free to leave a comment let us know if you agree or disagree with the comments. We will have the Men’s perspective as well coming soon. Also, if you want to be apart of the discussions hit me up on email me.

Graduation rates improve for NCAA tournament teams, African-Americans in particular

(AP) – Overall graduation rates improved among players at schools in this year’s men’s NCAA basketball tournament, and African-American players in particular did better, according to a study released Monday.

The annual report by the University of Central Florida’s Institute for Diversity and Ethics in Sport (TIDES) shows African-American players’ graduation success rate increased from 59 percent in 2012 to 65 percent this year, while white players’ rates increased from 88 percent to 90 percent.

The overall graduation rates for programs in the tournament increased from 67 percent in 2012 to 70 percent.

Six out of the tournament’s 68 teams have an APR score that falls below the NCAA’s new 930 line, which could lead to future penalties. Those teams are Southern, James Madison, Saint Louis, New Mexico State, Oregon and Oklahoma State.

Richard Lapchick, the study’s primary author, said the majority of the report contains good news.

Information was collected by the NCAA from member institutions for the study. The institute reviewed the six-year graduation rates of each school’s freshman class, or Graduation SuccessRates, then calculated a four-class average or Academic Progress Rate.

“In general, it’s the most progress I’ve seen overall,” Lapchick said told The Associated Press. “To be specific, every facet that we consider, everyone on the team, all the graduation rates increased. The APR scores increased significantly over the past year. And the difference in rates between white and African-American players declined 3 percent, though that gap is still a major factor of concern.”

There is a 25 percentage point difference in the graduation gap between white and African-American players among tournament teams this year.

Lapchick said more progress needs to be made in that area, though he noted the 65 percent graduation rate for African-American basketball players was significantly higher than the 38 percent for all male African-American college students.

Lapchick said there were two major factors in the study’s improving numbers: the NCAA’s tightening academic rules and the recent involvement of U.S. Secretary of Education Arne Duncan.

“The fact that teams can lose scholarships has been an extremely strong deterrent. Everything has improved consistently and continues to improve,” Lapchick said. “Arne Duncan got involved and that’s also been very important. He was a student athlete and the NCAA certainly doesn’t want the federal government involved.”

The APR was developed by the NCAA in 2004 as a means to improve graduation rates and is a four-year rolling average of academic performance that takes into account academic eligibility and retention.

The NCAA recently voted to increase its APR cutoff line for Division I programs from 925 to 930, which is roughly equivalent to a 50 percent graduation rate. The new standard is being phased into the NCAA’s average starting this year.

Ten schools were banned from this year’s postseason — including 2011 national champion Connecticut.

Lapchick said the real threat of penalties has encouraged schools to watch graduation rates closely. This year’s study showed that 79 percent of the teams (54 of 68) in this year’s tournament have scores of 950 or more.

“We are doing better each year,” Lapchick said in the report. “The academic reforms instituted in the past have worked. We need to raise the bar and move toward 60 percent being the acceptable standard for the APR. Two thirds of this year’s teams in the men’s tournament are already there.”

Copyright 2013 The Associated Press.


Patience in finding
Patience in knowing when it’s found
Patience in developing it when it’s owned
Rewinding, going back through your steps
Making sure it’s not a clone
Is vital in matching souls
Essential in making a house a home
She, making the right decision
When he’s on one knee, the classic pose
He, confirming she’s the one
Looking at the pictures of her
That takes up all the memory on his phone
Cause if it’s not the real thing
Patience is telling something that’s pseudo
To get rid of the placebos or get gon’
And if it leaves, patience strengthens
The fear against being alone
Not to mention it takes patience to be grown
To go from a nobody to known
Patience brings light to darkness
So the truth can be shown
Wisdom that lacks patience
Leads to the definition of atone
Like making up for the mistake
Of not listening to the jazz
In MJ’s cd player, ask Malone
it’s ignoring the three fingers
Pointing back at you
Before throwing a stone, the zone
I’m in, takes patience, complacent, I’m never
Been patient with these words. since. forever
Minus for add a y, day I’m better
Got as many styles as Cosby’s sweaters
Switch ’em up like the weather
My lines are as cold as a bever-
-age like fine wine
You cant say it’s not clever, however
I’m patient enough to be critiqued
Patience takes ness that’s meek
I’ve seen it make a millionaire out of a geek
And a lack of it Flip the cool athlete
Above the rim, beneath it, on the streets
With signs for food to eat
Pave the way for a married man to cheat
Vice versa, make a wife from a freak
And when at odds, remind them
Of their vows they swore to keep
It’s looking your child in the eye
And saying “I want you to be better than me”
It takes patience for an addict to escape defeat
A doctor needs patience
A knucklehead needs it to unwrap his gift to preach
Sometimes God puts a message in a bottle
And wants us to patiently wait for it at the beach
We need to be patient with His lessons
Before we can teach
4:13 of Philippians, with patience
No goal or dream is out of our reach
From finding a spouse
To hustlin’ for a j-o-b just to make ends meet
And everything in between, patience is the key
It goes hand in hand with faith and belief

My First Love


There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about you. You have always held me down no matter what I was going through. Even when no one else wanted me you stayed true. Some days I really miss you and wished we were together again. You taught me so much about myself. You gave me confidence in myself. You are the reason I walk and talk the way that I do. When no one understands me you seem to know just what I am trying to say.

I know we have not been together for 10 years now but every time I am in your presence my heart still skips a beat. I always tend to think about the old times and start to reminisce over our great times. I do not care what people say, no matter if we never get back together, you will always be my first love. Others can hate on the love I have for you but I do not care. In my heart there is nothing better.

You were with me through racial profiling, poverty, ups, downs, ignorant thinking, self-doubt, and all of my experiences. I love you for that. Ask anyone and they will tell you that there will always be love for you in my heart. You have always been true to me. From that I will scream your name and let the world know, no matter how bad people talk about you. Mississippi I will always love you! If I can make it with you I can make it with anyone!

Remember to Keep It GC,

Proposal Day

Have you spent the past few months looking down at your naked ring finger, impatiently wondering, “I wonder when my guy (or gal) is going to put some bling on it”? Well, look out, because today is Proposal Day!

Proposal Day is set aside for future brides and bridegrooms to stop hesitating and pop the question — in addition to Valentine’s Day, holidays, birthdays, vacations, and, well, every other day of the year.

A man named John Michael O’Loughlin invented the holiday after his cousin’s boyfriend strung her along for years without sealing the deal decades ago, Holidash says. Enough already, he thought, and dedicated a day to marriage proposals.

Proposal Day falls on the Vernal Equinox, at which point day and night are equal lengths. A second Proposal Day occurs during the Autumnal Equinox in September. O’Loughlin says he chose to nudge procrastinating young lovers into matrimony on these days because the equinoxes symbolize “the equal efforts of the two required to comprise the successful marriage,” Savings.com reports. Not to mention the spring awakening that hormones seem to get in March.

But couples shouldn’t get carried away. The holiday is also meant to spark a conversation about the possibility of a future proposal, according to ProposalDay.com. Besides, nowadays couples wait longer before tying the knot; roughly 27 per cent of women whose partners had popped the question said they dated their partner for three to five years, bridal style-finder Tailored discovered in a poll.

So maybe your ring finger, like O’Loughlin’s cousin, just has to wait — until next Proposal Day, that is.

The Decline of Marriage and the Rise of Unwed Mothers: An Economic Mystery

This was the most shocking statistic I read this weekend: 58 percent of first births in lower-middle-class households are now to unmarried women. Meanwhile, two in five of all births are to unwed mothers, an all-time high, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.


The thesis of this fascinating article in the Wall Street Journal says the real mystery here isn’t “Why so many babies?” but rather “Why so few marriages?” — particularly among less-educated men and women.

This is a complex economic mystery that we’ve explored, but we can take a big bite out of it by focusing on three factors: (1) The changing meaning of marriage in America; (2) declining wages for low-skill men; and (3) the declining costs of being a single person.

A New Union
Marriage has changed. Once upon a time, the typical marriage, as Justin Wolfers has explained, involved special roles for the husband and wife. He would work. She would stay home. It was an efficient arrangement where opposites attracted. Men who wanted to be executives would marry women who wanted to be housewives. And, since almost half of women had no independent earnings 40 years ago, there were a lot of women who just wanted to work at home and raise a family.

Several factors mussed up this traditional union. Today women expect to work much, much more than they used to — and they do. They make up the majority of new college graduates and their labor participation rate has soared over 60 percent. Since 1950, hours of work by married women have increased by roughly a factor of three, according to the Minneapolis Fed.

Now that women are better educated, with greater control over both their fertility and their earnings, modern marriage has changed from an arrangement where men marry for a housewife to a “hedonic” model where both partners can be the breadwinner. As marriage has shifted from opposites-attract to like-attracts-like, researchers have found that sorting has increased all along the educational scale. College graduates are more likely than ever to marry college graduates, as Charles Murray has written. High school dropouts are more likely to marry high school dropouts.

Think of marriage like any other contract or investment. It’s most likely to happen when the gains are big. So we should expect marriages among low-income Americans to decline if women perceive declining gains from hitching themselves to the men around them.

That’s precisely what we’ve seen…

Cheap Wages, Cheap Technologies
Low-skill men have had a rough two generations. The evaporation of manufacturing work has gutted their main source of employment, while globalization has held down their wages. Marriage has declined the most among men whose wages have declined the most. Here’s a remarkable graph from the Hamilton Project comparing change in earnings (the RED LINE) and change in likelihood to be married (the BLUE BARS).

In a dating pool where poor women are more likely to be surrounded by men with low and falling fortunes, more women have ditched a union for good economic reasons: It could be a financial drain. In The Truly Disadvantaged, William Julius Wilson, argued that “high rates of unemployment and incarceration meant that the local dating pool was populated by unmarriageable men–and the result was that women chose to live independently.”

It is hardly easy to do anything with earnings near the poverty level. But it is relatively easier to raise a child and keep up a home with modern household innovations. The connection between Lunchables, detergent and marriage rates is not often made. But perhaps it should be. The development of time-saving technologies — cheap prepared foods, cheap clothes, machines to wash, dry, and vacuum — has not only encouraged more women to seek work, but also made it relatively easier for single parents to raise a child. Put starkly, technology makes it cheaper and easier than ever to be single. It makes marrying a financially unstable man even more risky.

That women find themselves drifting “unintentionally” into parenthood with men they have no intent of marrying creates another generation of problems. Children raised in two-parent households are more likely to go to college, more likely to be employed, and more likely to earn a high wage. The rise of unwed mothers might be logical for many of these women. But there is too much evidence that it deepens the divide between the haves and have-nots in America.

Derek Thompson The Atlantic

Natural Ink Clothing

I had the pleasure of sitting down with the lovely Liseli Fitzpatrick, owner of Natural Ink Clothing. She is a very positive young lady and her clothing speaks volumes of greatness. I really enjoy her clothing line. Her shirts have positive messages. I also really love the fit of her clothing. I am definitely a big supporter of her movement.

Me: When did you start Natural Ink?

Liseli: I started Natural Ink Clothing in 2005. However, it was actually launched in March 2006.

Me: What were the motivating factors for you to start your company?

Liseli: Well, I consider myself to be a spiritually grounded person. I do have a gift of creativity and I wanted to use my gift in a way that serves to empower, ignite consciousness while spreading Love and happiness throughout the world. I believe in utilizing the gifts we were given to do good in the world, using all media available in the channeling of positive energy, in this case it is through T-shirts. I really wanted to inspire people with my positive messages and outlook on life, which I transposed on shirts. It really occurred to me while I was in Ecuador living with my mother. I would notice T-shirts that had otherwise negative messages/prints on them, and felt that I could use this very medium to promote positivity. That day, I realized that I wanted to design T-shirts centered around positive messages that people would be “proud” to wear. My mother, father and grandmother were very supportive of my passion, and ensured that my dream became a reality.

Me: I can understand that completely. I find it disrespectful for people to wear shirts with negative slurs on them. Now I hear your accent where are you from?

Liseli: I am from Trinidad and Tobago

Me: Very nice! Where are you currently located?

Liseli: I currently live in Columbus, Ohio. I am a lecturer in African-American & African Studies at The Ohio State University. I also got my undergraduate and graduate degrees there.

Me: Now you said that you make T-shirts that are positive and people can be proud wearing. Do you sell any other types of apparel?

Liseli: I try not to use the word proud (laughing). I prefer to say confident. But yes, it did start off as a T-shirt line. Now it has evolved into jackets, dresses, hoodies, and clothing for babies.

Me: Are your shirts for males and females?

Liseli: Yes we have a selection for both men and women. We actually include everyone. It does not matter your ethnic background, color, age, size or orientation. Natural Ink Clothing promotes unity, positivity, and Love.

Me: I really love the hoodies. I need one in a Large! Where do you want your clothing line to go in the next 5 years?

Liseli: To open a physical shop where I don’t only have clothing but also music for the soul, an open mic space, and inspirational books. I want people to have a positive space for self expression. I also want to have a charity for persons who are without – have a clothing and food drive for them.

Me: Sounds like you have a big heart. I think the charity is a great thing. You want people to perform music and poetry at your store?

Liseli: Yes, that would be great. I really think that it is a great way to stay in tuned with each other. I want people to be able to come in and relax while maybe having a glass of freshly squeezed juice, and just unwind.

Me: This sounds like some place. I hope I get the invite when it opens up. How can people purchase your clothing?

Liseli: Right now you can go to www.naturalinkclothing.com and look through our catalog.

Me: Well I want to thank you for your time. I also want to thank you for your work on my T-shirts and Hoodies for Gentleman’s Counsel.

Liseli: You’re welcome and thank you for the interview.

Me: Remember to Keep It GC
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