I wonder how many of us have actually had the fortune of being in the presence of one! Well, many women would think that gone are those days when gentlemen really laid down their coats so that her highness could cross the puddle of water without really getting her expensive footwear soiled. The idea that most have about the diminishing numbers of gentlemen all over is not always true, sadly not everybody gets to meet a true gentleman in every walk of life. In the ancient days, there was a time when the market was flooded with books that taught people about etiquette and how one should conduct oneself in public. Probably the modern men and even women of today may not really identify with the kind of social rules that were laid out in those books. Chewing food with your mouth open and rude behavior are just the basics of the rules that were laid out. Some of these hold true even today. Common courtesy is one such thing that I have noticed which is truly uncommon; be it men or women. Women still have their set ideas about gentlemen and the hope that their man would also be like one, is a secret buried deep inside. So, what do women mean when they speak about qualities of a gentleman? Are these qualities so rare or are women really asking for too much?
Essential Qualities of a True Gentleman
A polished man is bound to win the hearts of many ladies. This is one quality that is most sought after by a lot of women. A true gentleman would always be aware of the way he presents himself to others. This is not about being a put on; in fact being polished in his behavior should come from within. No woman would love a slob; a true man is one who knows how to behave in public and is careful about his etiquette. Such a gentleman would always be well dressed and this does not mean sporting brands. A neat and well-groomed personality is a sure sign of a gentleman.
He always keeps his word. This is one thing that I have heard since my childhood days! Being honest to yourself and others around you is also another quality a gentleman possesses. A man who is honest and respects others is bound to be an attractive personality since honesty is one such factor that is also diminishing amongst people today.
He will always mind his manners and would always appreciate others. He would very rarely lose his temper or raise his voice. A man would need this quality to be called a thorough gentleman; the man needs to always be aware when he should say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Trust me, this is bound to make you look really sophisticated and you would really stand out for being polite and courteous; especially in a time when many have forgotten the basics that were taught way back in school.
He always carries himself with grace. Winning the hearts of women doesn’t always mean having drop dead gorgeous looks; it’s his mannerisms that prove to be most attractive!
A chivalrous man is also considered to be the very quality any woman would look for in her man. Most women love being treated with exclusivity. Girls love men who holds the door open for the lady and offers to hold her heavy grocery bag. Although, women may scream about gender equality, the truth is women love being treated in a special way. Trust me, having the door slammed on the face by a guy is definitely a complete turn off!
He would always command authority in a mild manner. This will help him earn respect at work and also impress his ladylove. A man who does not throw his weight around and act pompous at work is bound to look more dignified as compared to a man who rants and raves and makes a fool of himself in public.
He can also be a fun person; gentlemen are not necessarily boring people! A fine sense of humor combined with intelligent conversational skills can show the true spirit of a thorough man.
What I have compiled here is just a beginning! Girls, if you manage to meet a gentleman, I am sure you would have the time of your life with such a towering personality. These are just a few qualities mentioned out here; the list can be never ending! Therefore, I am sure many women would know by now, they should draw the line!
By Kashmira Lad
