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Integrity is so important when you are working to achieve your goals. In hindsight, do you accept the decisions that you have made? Are you content with your path toward greatness and are you getting there through hard work or climbing and stomping on the backs of others? I love seeing people succeed, but I have a problem when they do it underhandedly, especially my students.

I’d be hypocritical to say that I have always been ‘by the book’ while I was a student in school. I found my shortcuts to getting things done and my grade reflected it and not in a good way either. The outcome reflected my half-steppin’. But one thing I desire not to do is put someone in a situation in which I have chosen to be in, meaning, I am do bad by myself. I can think of one time I put my friends in a compromising situation and I still hear about it… 15 years later! To know that I affected them in a way that was lasting didn’t make me feel very good.

Integrity is such a big part of growth. It is learned. It is shown. It is witnessed. I desire all three, exercising integrity in all situations, especially as an adult and, even more so, as a parent. So what is my point? Don’t expect me to exercise a lack of integrity, especially as a professor. I have told my students SO many times that I do not ‘give’ grades! They EARN them. I remember one I received an email and the student was asking about a ‘C’ grade earned. I explained the grade and how the student received it. The student stated that this grade could prevent them from going to nursing school and that they wanted it changed to a ‘B’. I told the student to call me. When the student called, I said that I couldn’t change a grade that was earned. This student pushed and asked and almost begged for this grade change and I told the student, very calmly,

“Sorry, but I can’t live with such dishonesty. Can you?” The student said, “Huh?” I replied, “If you really want the ‘B’, please contact my director and let her know what you desire.” *silence* I continued to state, “You have plenty of time to do better in your other classes to help your GPA.” *silence* Then the students said, “Okay, thank you” and we said our ‘goodbyes’.

I thought that the situation would infuriate me. It definitely surprised me, but what made me mad is what situation occurred previously that gave this student the nerve to ask for a better grade? Has this been done before and if so, what professor would do that? So, they have tainted their own integrity and the student witnessed it and, apparently, thought this was okay. Again, this is speculation. Maybe this was the first time and they thought they would take a shot at it. Well, the student got SHOT DOWN! You will appreciate your journey to success when you travel the road of integrity.


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Dr. Janice (‘Jai’) Armstrong
CEO, LiHK Consulting, LLC
Collegiate Success Coaching, Training and Development
“Discover what you LiHK (like); Become who you Love”


·    While I am driving into work there are some drivers that I really think fall asleep behind the wheel!!  They sit idle after the light has been green for a minute or they decide to pull in front of you and drive slower than the speed limit because they haven’t had their ‘pick up’ in the morning.  Well, I am wide awake, driving the speed limit, or more, and my pick-me-ups are sitting in the back seat!  So now, you are in my way to get to my destination!  No, I am not rushing!  Most times I am on time or early, but I should not feel the consequences of your lack of motivation!  So, as I am driving, I shout, “Move!!! Geez!”  and my son, taking after his father, shouts, “C’mon Mannnn! ‘Outta Wayyy'”  I can’t help but chuckle because even a 2.5 year old knows that driver needs to get some pep in that pedal!


Anyway, when I think of someone shouting, “Move!”, it is said, mostly, in urgency!  There is a destination to get to or there is a barrier to that destination; therefore, the command has purpose, yet stated sternly for ACTION!  When I think about Ludacris’ song, “Move….” and a Baltimore Club Track, “Out My Way….” and how, at parties, folks would respond, moving each other out of the way, in fun, of course, the songs provoked action and a change in position, sometimes forced.  Most times being forced to move is not ‘welcomed’ or ‘preferred’.

Don’t wait to move on things you desire to do!  In these economic times, many of us are forced to move out of jobs and positions and it’s not comfortable.  Then we are forced to move to other desired levels in our careers and life, quicker than we would have wanted, and it’s, initially, not comfortable.  If you want to do something in life, then get started and… MOVE!  Whether baby steps, major steps or huge leaps of faith…. MOVE!!!  If you aren’t ready, that’s fine; MOVE when you are. If someone is in your way, then tell them to “MOVE… get out the way…” because you have places to go, things to see and people to meet! Don’t let the consequences of their lack of motivation affect your actions!  If someone is blocking your progress, say ‘Out My Way…’ and ‘throw them bows’ (i.e. elbowing someone out of their current position) because you are trying to move out or up and they are dead-weight.  Get assertive in your demands; get aggressive in your quest!!  You have a destiny!  You won’t get there until you MOVE!!!

“A ‘dead-weight’ in your progress will surely hinder your success” ~ Dr. Jai



Dr. Janice (‘Jai’) Armstrong











Dear LiHK Leaders,

As we get older, at least in my experiences, ‘fun’ falls to the wayside a bit. Other priorities arise and the notion of ‘fun’ isn’t AS important. One may have the opportunity to ‘enjoy’ something: like a glass of wine; a good movie; a nice dinner… but FUN takes more ACTION! You have to MAKE things FUN. It seems, to me, that there is a greater physical and emotional appreciation for what FUN is when it happens. We increase those endorphins and enhance that dopamine when we have FUN!!! REMEMBER ‘dopamine’, by thinking, “Dope is Mine”… get high on LIFE and have FUN!! (No, not ‘dope’ literally!! Just a little psych lesson that I use for my students to help them remember important brain neurotransmitters (gossip between nerves)).


Anyway, here is the story behind this: My son, Jayson, was sitting in the back seat of my truck this morning. He had his earphones on watching Mickey Mouse clubhouse, cheerios in his lap, and his sunglasses on upside down! I tell him all of the time that they are on wrong, but he keeps them that way. Today, at a stop light, I asked him to give me the glasses and I placed them in his hand the right way, encouraging him to, as I tell him, “put the nose in the nose hole!” He put them on, upside down again. I said, “Jayson, why you want them on like that?” He simply said, “It’s FUN, Mommy!” We can learn a lot from kids; they remind us what having PURE fun is like! Forget about how you look and what people think of you. When YOU are smiling and laughing and enjoy a GOOD TIME for yourself; others opinions really don’t matter. Love life and have FUN! It’s almost summer time; the season of FUN!! Embrace it!

Dr. Jai

(www.lihkleaders.com and http://about.me/drjanicearmstrong )