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Fathers Incorporated Announces Its 10th Anniversary Gala: Celebrating 10 Years Of Building Better Fathers

Judge Greg Mathis Will Serve As Keynote Speaker; Tracy Martin (Father Of Trayvon) Among Awardees

– Judge Greg Mathis, presiding jurist of the nationally syndicated, reality-based court show “Judge Mathis,” will serve as the Keynote Speaker at Fathers Incorporated’s 10th Annual Fundraising Gala to be held on November 18, 2014, at the Alhambra Ballroom, Harlem, New York, 6:30 p.m.– 9:30 p.m. For more information, tickets and sponsorship please visit www.fathersincgala.com –








Kenneth Braswell; Executive Director, Fathers Incorporated

New York, NY — On Tuesday, November 18th many of the most committed and influential agents of change across the country will come together to join Fathers Incorporated in celebrating a decade of working to build better fathers by strengthening communities and family infrastructure. Terrie Williams, President of the Terrie Williams Agency and author of Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We’re Not Hurting, will serve as the Mistress of Ceremonies for the evening’s festivities.

“This year’s gala represents a major milestone for us at Fathers Incorporated. We have a significant story to tell about our humble beginnings from a small nonprofit founded in Albany, NY to a seasoned national fatherhood organization that serves as a leader in the promotion of Responsible Fatherhood and Mentoring in addition to the management of President Obama’s National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse. We have grown and produced impacts by using innovative social marketing and multi-media platforms, developing research-based products for the field, engaging in intensive outreach, and connecting key stakeholders–all serving to combat father absence in society and help support fathers in their role as parents,” says Braswell.

According to Shawn Dove, Manager of the Open Society Foundations’ Campaign for Black Male Achievement, “We are fortunate to have Fathers Incorporated as our friend and partner. Fathers Incorporated believes that the presence or absence of one’s father shapes the way that children view the world and develop. It believes in the family, the importance of fathers for children to thrive, and the importance of supporting men in families to continue to create positive changes in our communities. CBMA applauds the work of Fathers Incorporated and its contributions to the field of fatherhood. November 18th will be a special opportunity to separate its accomplishments and help increase support for the mission of Fathers Incorporated.”

In addition to celebrating Fathers Incorporated’s anniversary and accomplishments, a portion of the Gala will be devoted to honoring the partners who have worked with the organization over this past year to make a difference in the lives of fathers and families. 2014 Fathers Incorporated Honorees:

* Tracy Martin – The father of Trayvon Martin, who has encouraged a nation of Black fathers by example to be available for our children in the best and worst of life’s situations.

* Purple R.E.I.G.N. – Under the leadership of Founder and DV survivor Asia D. Smith, this Domestic Violence agency has addressed the tragic effects of DV for women, men, and children.

* Black Star Project – Founder and Executive Director, Phillip Jackson engages over 700 cities and thousands of schools across the globe to celebrate the Million Father March–encouraging fathers to engage in educational childhood development.

* Judge Greg Mathis – Judge Mathis is a national figure known for his advocacy campaigns for equal justice. His inspirational life story of a street youth who rose from jail to Judge has provided hope to millions who watch him on the award-winning television court show “Judge Mathis” each day.

* Cbabi Bayoc – Cbabi (stands for “Creative Black Artist Battling Ignorance”) Bayoc is an artist dedicated to using his craft to promote positive images of fatherhood, including his creation of 365 Days with Dad–paintings depicting inspirational portraits of Black fathers and their children.

* Dove Men+Care – Since the launch of the brand in 2010, Dove Men+Care has been committed to celebrating and authentically portraying and honoring fathers, coaches, and male mentors.

The mission of Fathers Incorporated is to encourage the positive involvement of father’s in the lives of children. If you agree, please join them to make a difference! Tickets and Gala Journal Ads are on sale now (early bird rates end 10/22).

The organization says, “With your support, we can continue to make a significant contribution to the work of Responsible Fatherhood and Mentoring!”

To learn more about Fathers Incorporated, purchase tickets, or make a donation, please visit www.fathersincgala.com.

Kenneth Braswell

Built for a Purpose

God will always answer the call of his people when they cry out to him, now in this passage of scriptures we see that in the last chapter the Israelites cried out to God from being afflicted by the Pharoah, and now we have god answer and response to this cry. God can do anything that he wants in this earth please understand, but God chosen to limit himself in the form of man. So anytime there is a problem god answers through a man, which brings us to where we are now in this text. Remember that God does everything in seed form, so the answer to this cry has to come in the form of a man but through a baby first that will grow into the man that he needs. Since the King was threatening by the Israelites he ordered to have all the male children killed, this now also included Moses. God will always put person in place to see to it that his plan is properly put into place, so Moses mother in fear that he would be killed his him for three months, and when she felt that she could hide him no longer she took him and put him in the Nile river in hopes of saving his life. Understand that what the devil means for your harm god will mean it for your Good! So while the Pharoah is out to kill all male children and guess who god put in position to save the life of Moses by drawing him out of the River? None other than Pharoah daughter! So the very same man who is trying to kill the promised of God, God is preparing him to be part of the family. Moses was built for a purpose and that purpose was to bring gods people out of Egypt. So here it is Pharoah daughter takes Moses and raises him as her own son because she was led by the spirit of the Lord and she had compassion on the baby so instead of him being killed by Pharoah, he is now in the family and in line to be Pharoah replacement if any of the other sons was to die. The same man that Pharoah set out to kill is actually built for a purpose which is to free his people. When you are built for a purpose Satan will try to destroy, but God will always prepare someone to save his Plan! A lot of us are being attacked by the devil only because we are built for a purpose and if the devil lets us grow into what we were built to do then he would have failed, so he fights with our minds constantly making us think they are inadequate to do the job or fulfill the purpose that he has called us for. As a baby Moses is not the finished product of what he will become, but by the devil constantly trying to devour the young children Moses purpose in life is in jeopardy of not being fulfilled, it takes the faithfulness and obedience of a few in order to pull him out of the River, nurse him and raise him as their own in order for Moses to grow into what God has purposed in his life. When God has a purpose in your life he will not allow anything to get in the way of what he is doing. A man’s life is a waste of he walks the earth and never comes into his own, you can’t live a fulfilling life if you don’t know what you are purposed to do. The grave yard is full of dead bodies that used to possess a talent or even the answer to one of life’s problems that may or may not have been fulfilled. One thing I know about God is that he is a business man and just like every business was man he wants a return on his investment. God would not dare to pull you out of the fire and the dungeon, just to turn you over to the devil, that devil is a list. So think about who you are and what you are and think back over your life and think of all the hell and hot water that you have cause for yourself and think of all things that God has brought you to through. If God wanted you gone then he would have let Pookie and them have you a long time ago, he would have let the jail, or the drugs or the abuse have you, he would have let the devil kill you at birth. What kind of father would save his child from a car wreck just to let them drown in a Pool? God knows you in fact the Bible declares that even before you were in your mother’s womb he had already planned your life and gave you a purpose. What is your purpose in life? What is it that God has been calling you to from the Birth? What has god save you from over and over again? What is he saving you for? Why is he saving you? Are you worth being drawn out of the Water? Are you worth him investing into? Can he depend on you to take your place and save a nation full of lost People? How long will you run from your calling? Will your talent go to Waste? Will you finally fulfill your purpose in Life? You need to stop running because you are built for a Purpose!

Daniel Evans

1 in 10 Adolescents Confess to Sexual Violence

Laura Berman, PhD
An alarming new study has found high incidents of sexual assault among young people.

When it comes to rape and acts of sexual violence, we tend to picture armed rapists hiding in the shadows. We assume that people who commit sexual assault are often on the fringes of society, the type of perpetrators who wait in darkened parking lots or who break into homes in the middle of the night.

Of course, the reality is that rape often doesn’t look like what we see in the movies. And neither do rapists. Rapists aren’t the stereotypical bad guy lurking on street corners. They are people we know and trust. Although it’s frightening to think about, it’s important to realize that rape can come in many forms—it can be forced sexual contact after an otherwise pleasant date, it can be forced intercourse between a husband and a wife, it can be a night of drinking followed by someone taking advantage of your vulnerable state.

And, now a new study published by JAMA Pediatrics has found that rapists tend to begin their violent behavior as early as their teenage years. Researchers from Center for Innovative Public Health Research and the University of New Hampshire found that 1 in 10 youths admit to committing sexual violence. This included everything from rape to attempted rape to kissing, touching, or otherwise committing sexual acts when they knew the other person did not want to do so. Most of this behavior began as early as 15 or 16 years old.

The results of this study are quite disturbing and frightening. What can account for this high level of sexual violence in our society and how can we better protect our children?

While the study found a small association between watching violent X-rated media and crimes of sexual violence, the truth is that that our entire society plays a role in our young people’s sexual behavior. We live in a rape culture, in a world which makes rape and sexual violence the victim’s problem rather than the criminal’s problem. We degrade and dehumanize women and girls with words like “slut” and “whore” and we simultaneously make it okay for certain women to be abused sexually. After all, they were asking for it. We ask questions like: Well, why was she out so late? Why did she have so much to drink? Why was she wearing such a short skirt? If she didn’t want to go all the way, why did she get in the car with him?

In an attempt to stop rape, we try to teach people (usually girls and women) how not become victims, such as by encouraging them not to walk alone and not to dress or act a certain way. However, in doing so, we are tackling the problem from the completely wrong end. We don’t need to be teaching rape victims how not to be raped. We need to be teaching young people how not to rape—how to look for enthusiastic consent, how to listen to the word “no,” how not to coerce, pressure, or otherwise manipulate someone into sex against their will. We need to be instilling healthy sexual behavior and encouraging young people to learn how to communicate about safety, consent, and mutual respect in the bedroom. We also need to end misogynist language and ideology that serves to shame women for their bodies and their sexuality.

In order to end sexual violence, we need to end the systems that allow for sexual violence to occur in the first place. That means ending the silence and the fear that many rape victims feel, and that means holding rapists 100% accountable for their actions. Young people need to learn that a drunk or high person can’t give consent, and that coercing a partner and saying things “Come on, if you loved me, you would let me” and “No one will know,” isn’t just manipulation. It’s rape. No means no. And, for that matter, consent isn’t just the absence of a no. Consent is an enthusiastic yes, and learning how to look for that consent needs to be one of the first lessons we teach young people when it comes to sexual education.

Martin Luther King Jr.’s Children in Legal Battle Over Intellectual Property



(CN) – On the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech, his estate sued a nonprofit run by the iconic leader’s daughter, claiming she plans to keep using her father’s “irreplaceable” memorabilia despite no longer being licensed to do so.
In a lawsuit filed Aug. 28 in Fulton County Court, the Estate of Martin Luther King Jr. Inc. — run by King’s sons, Martin Luther King III and Dexter King — claims it licensed the civil rights activist’s intellectual property rights to The Martin Luther King Jr. Center for Nonviolent Social Change in March 2009.
The King Center’s CEO is Bernice King, the youngest child of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who was assassinated in 1968.
Dr. King’s estate claims it supports the center’s mission to maintain King’s legacy and has been the nonprofit’s single largest individual donor for the past decade.
But it says the center has been careless with Dr. King’s intellectual property, which includes the leader’s “name, image, recorded voice and memorabilia,” along with “all works of authorship … including writings, speeches, sermons, letters and copyrights,” trademark interests, and “the remains and coffin contained within the crypt of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.”
The estate says it conducted an audit in April, which “revealed that the current manner of care and storage of the physical property by defendant is unacceptable.” It claims the items are “susceptible to damage by fire, water, mold, and mildew, as well as theft.”
King’s sons say they tried to work with their sister to fix the problems, but the relationship “has recently become strained, resulting in a total breakdown in communication and transparency.”
As a result, the estate allegedly was forced to terminate the worldwide, royalty-free licensing agreement by mailing the King Center a 30-day notice on Aug. 10.
The notice stated that the King Center could prevent its license from being terminated if it agreed to place Bernice on administrative leave pending the final outcome of an audit; get the estate’s approval for all responsibilities related to the “use, care and treatment” of the memorabilia; and immediately remove Andrew Young and Dr. King’s niece, Alveda King, from its board of directors. The estate claims Alveda tried to “impede” the audit.
Bernice, through her personal attorney, responded with a letter indicating that the center “is taking action to work a violation of plaintiff’s intellectual property rights,” according to the estate.
It wants a court order forcing the King Center to stop using its intellectual property after the license expires in September.
The estate is represented by William Hill of Rafuse Hill & Hodges in Atlanta

Save Our Children Innocence

ro2I was speaking to a group of youth and the topics that these 12-14 year old wanted to talk to me about was mind blowing. Not get into all of the specifics that we talked about, but I asked them where did they get this information from and they said, “Twitter and Facebook”. I am really starting to become concerned with the state of our youth. I look online at different sites and I am always seeing videos of kids fighting over Facebook and twitter “beef”, I personally do not think children should even be allowed on these sites. I personally don’t think that some adults should be able to use these sites as well, but I will save that for another day.

The problem is if a child has a problem with someone at school they get on these formats and express how much they dislike someone or how they would hurt them. Now everyone is reading this which put the other person in the position to have to defend their name of look like a punk or soft. We know how hard it was when we were growing up to walk away from a situation like this. Social Media makes it that much worse. There is nothing amusing to me seeing a video of our youth fight over the internet.

I look at some of my younger cousins pages in disguise because of what they are saying and putting out over the internet. I know that they are friends with adults that are talking crazy and reckless. You think they have a clue that once they put this out that information it is there for everyone to see! We have to let our kids be kids as long as we can.

Stop letting our kids get on these site I should not be seeing pictures of your daughter/son having sexual relations on here. If you are letting them have it at least watch who they are talking to and what they are saying. You should have their password on you. Check what they do. My mother would not let us lock the bedroom door if we did she would threaten to have my dad take it off the hinges. She comes right in even if we were changing even though we were so embarrassed she did not care. Never did. We did not pay any bills there and we were reminded about it as well LOL. Stop being friends with your kids and raise them. We are setting these kids up for failure. They do not know how to communicate with each other or adults. Time for change.

Remember to Keep it GC,

Counselor Adrian