I have had this conversation with a group of women and a group of guys and there are two different tones in the conversation. I personally do not understand what the big issue is. Men feel that they cannot give a woman a $1000-$2000 ring anymore.
Let us start from the beginning. Engagement rings were started a long time ago. Apparently, it is the time between the proposal and the actual day of marriage. This basically is a symbol that put a woman off the market. So it is basically a promise that, “I am going to marry you.” Now, the diamond ring came into play (not only from commercial affects) because of the meaning, “Diamonds are Forever.” Since you are coming into this unbreakable bond that is supposed to last forever, why not get a great stone?
If a man gets you a ring that you do not want will you turn him down, even if you love him? When I poll men they seem to think that a woman will. When I talk to women there are a lot of mixed emotions and feelings. Some say it does not matter. Some say things like it has to be 2 carets or more. It just depends on who you are asking.
Does a wedding band mean anything anymore? As a man it is hard because I can afford to buy a nice ring, but I also want to be with someone that loves me no matter what size the ring is that I get. She cares more about the bond that we are forming. She doesn’t even care what people think about the ring. Let’s be honest the ring is a people pleaser. Maybe that is the fairy tale life that women live in. They want it all.
Another thing I found from the men I talk to that got their woman an inexpensive ring seem to be happy in their marriage. They knew that it did not matter and could speak very confidently in the love they shared with each other. That is a very nice bond. I want that.
I open another question, do you mind if you get a cheaper ring then upgrade after 5 years? This could be something between you, showing a milestone in your marriage. I am not saying that it is all about the ring. I will say it once again, I can afford a nice ring it is more of the mind frame and thought process that I am looking at.
Sometimes I think that we get so caught up in the over hype of the marriage process that we forget about the marriage itself. I am not married but I know that it takes a lot of work. I definitely think having someone that is more worried about the lifelong commitment and bond is more important than the size of the ring.
Remember to Keep it GC,