If women truly “want what they want” they must learn how to treat a man.
Women are rarely taught how to treat a Man; at least it’s not a standard concept in the year 1970 and beyond. Women do not really discover the concept of how to treat a man until it is an “issue” of some sort. These issues could range from wanting to get married; their current relationship is falling apart or simply they are not achieving fulfilling relationships. Even in discovery of the concept of “how to treat a man”, Women are not learning to sustain and progress in their treatment of Man.
What is ironic about this situation is that Men are groomed from boyhood on “how to treat a women” or at least a shadowing concept. A Man may not have gotten the best advice, but whether it is from parents, friends, or personal research; he knows some sort of tips, techniques, and cheap shots on how to treat a women. If a Man can’t get a woman, he’s a failure. If a Woman can’t get a man, she’s single (how fair is that). 90% (not scientific) of Men spend their day concentrating on “how to treat a women” so they can get the “prize”, whatever that may be.
How many women sit around plotting and scheming on how to keep a man or get him to commit (we are talking about regular people, regular relationship on a normal basis)? Probably not many, however I will tell you; the women that get the seemingly perfect man, understand it takes planning, listening and implementation. These women know, understand, and take action in how to treat their men. Ladies these are your friends that are married/long term relationship status and you cannot figure out why. Unless she is with a man that has chosen to allow foolishness to go on, she is doing something behind closed doors that she is not telling you about. She may also be telling you the secrets to sucess and your like “that’s to much”. Most women “plot and scheme” in a time of desperation. You have to learn to do this from the start. Don’t start developing cooking skills when your man finds food next door. Don’t start to blow your mans mind after “the situation”. If you want the man to give you what you want, you have to set some ground rules for “yourself” and for him. Men “plot and scheme” on a regular basis. From the beach to the bed and from the church to the alter, men have put together plans, tactics and strategies (plot and scheme may be negative or positive). Men will go the “extra” step for the Women who they seek a fulfilling relationship with. Men want to satisfy and provide for you. Don’t think like a man; however understand what the Man is thinking.
Side Note: Although “Plot and Scheme” is used, don’t confuse yourself. Be genuine with your intentions to “wow” him; Don’t do something that you don’t vision your self being able to do on a continuous basis. You will disappoint him and you.
Men give Women what they “want” and are consistent at doing what a women wants (not part-time, special occasion or because their woman is upset) Men give women what they want because they “like” to do it. Even if they don’t like to do it, they are “self-motivated” to make it happen. They are happy for the sake that they “can” do whatever it is their women wants. Women if you have a man that is “Good” for you it will be hard to out “do” him in what he does. Just like it should be a challenge for him to “out do” you in what you “do”.
In contrast many women take on whatever it is that their man wants or that he wishes her to do for him as a “chore” or a “job”. Many Women are just not enthusiastic about “doing” for their man. They may do something, but over a period of time (like 2 weeks) they tend to fizzle out. However, they are highly upset and frustrated, when their man starts to slack off.
For instance men “open doors” for women, happily. Something a woman could do is naturally “touch” your man whenever you enter a room with him (Shoulder, elbow, etc). Will it happen all the time? “No”…but if you make a conscious effort, he will notice and appreciate it. Whisper in his ear, anything can be said as long as it’s not negative. “I really want you to do the dishes” whisper voice; sounds great to the male ego. Did I mention ‘Ego”, Man love Ego rubs! Doesn’t mean he has no confidence or is egotistical, but that ego button likes being “Pushed”.
Women also say that men fail to communicate, however many women fail to hear or comprehend. Listen to your man. The more you listen the more he will communicate with you. Actually the more you listen; you will be able to figure out where his mind is. I mean “figure him out” as in truly understanding his point of view, not jumping to conclusions. If your Man says he wants a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, ever Friday at 4pm…..have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich ever Friday at 4pm. You have to please him to get what you want. This may sound barbaric in context, however “just throw it in the bag”, sounds very jolly to a women’s ears. Man and Women need to understand that when it comes to love and commitment, sometimes you will “give” and not receive. This does no advocate being used, but you do have to rationalize that some circumstances will be unfair, however if you’re in it together, what ever is unfair or one-sided should benefit the relationship as a whole.
Men are still largely viewed and held to traditional standards. However, women are not. This is a conflict in itself. A man understands that times have changed and you may not be able to cook every day. Ladies use your assets to keep him happy and help him meet the relationships goals. Support him through the day; give him that back rub that he so desperately needs. If you want him to pay most of the time and also help you around the house, then your excuse for not doing more should not be because you work. To “keep” a man doing traditional things you need to do extra for him (keep is the key word, your man will continue to do the traditional things, however “you” may not “keep” him). Women should strive to understand the rationale behind roles of men and women in relationships. A woman does not have to live a life of servitude to a man, however do not place a man in a traditional “box” without fully comprehending the “pros” and “cons” of the situation.
Remember to always keep it GC